Teddy Bear Tech Support is about exploring different modes of interacting with people where you bring other people into your process. How can your process of how you're going about things or thinking about things benefit from someone else's presence and attention? How does adding someone into your process create possibilities for more and different connection as well as help you arrive at better outcomes?
Teddy Bear Tech Support is about support that requires a minimal amount of "doing" on the part of the people that are providing the support.
Here’s just how minimal it can be:
- There’s a story about a computer technical support office that had a teddy bear on the front counter. The rule for people coming to the office was, before you could talk to an actual person, you had to first explain the problem you were having with your computer to the teddy bear. If talking to the teddy bear solved your problem, then you'd be on your way and you wouldn't have taken up any of the real people's time. Many problems fell in this category, and so the people who worked at this tech support office were able to save a lot of time this way.
Having another mind to think through things with is very valuable. There are plenty of cases where all that the other mind needs to provide is a forum for having you say things out loud to someone. You automatically bring yourself to the situation in a different way if there's someone else holding the space with you.
Teddy Bear Tech Support was inspired by the story about the teddy bear at the tech support office, but note well that tech support is NOT what this is about!!! Also, you don't have to talk to inanimate objects! We'll be looking at swapping out the stuffed animal teddy bears for "teddy bears" with more capabilities (but with constraints placed on the use of their capabilities). So, we'll be talking to real live people in real time, or talking to real or imagined people by writing to them, or by talking to a recording device.
So, what might you talk through with a teddy bear?
- Whatever thoughts come to mind as you try to wade in when you're not sure where to start
- Prioritizing your day
- Making your intentions clearer for an email you just finished drafting out
- Fleshing out some different possibilities that could address an issue
- Reflecting on a parenting decision or a conversation you need to have
What minimal things might you ask a "human teddy bear" to do?
- serve as a silent witness
- do some paraphrasing of parts of what you've said
- offer some questions (and perhaps offer the questions in writing)
- make guesses at the core of what's important
At the heart of what TBTS is about is giving talkers an environment
- where the focus is on bringing their own resources to bear to the matters at hand
- where the processing that the talkers are doing is to be supported with highest priority (so that the thoughts and impulses, e.g., to give advice, of the teddy bears don't threaten to encroach on the talker's processing)
So, with teddy bear setups, it’s about getting to interact with someone in a way that makes it so you are better able to help yourself. We are keeping what teddy bears are "doing" to a minimum and letting them know that a key part of their job involves staying out of your way.
- 1 Note: Work in progress
- 2 An example
- 3 What situations might you talk about?
- 4 Why minimal? Why have constraints?
- 5 Ready to try it out?
- 6 How does the magic work?
- 7 Same page enough
- 8 Exploring content and processes that you tend not to include others in
- 9 Operating in different modes than usual
- 10 The gift of getting to witness/accompany and experience the journey
- 11 Teddy bears as well as talkers are likely to get a 3rd party perspective on issues in their own lives
- 12 Examples of kinds of Talkers and Teddy Bears
- 13 Many easy ways to recruit Teddy Bears
- 14 Teddy Bear Tech Support from the Teddy Bear's perspective
Note: Work in progress
This page is under construction. What follows is a work in progress. One thing I'd like to make more progress on is adding more stories and examples to this website. So, if through giving TBTS a try or if you've already been doing some form of TBTS and have things to share with me, please get in touch with me by contacting me at email@example.com.
One way to give TBTS a try is by going to the Opportunities Signup (bitly.com/oppsignup), where you can find people you can schedule times to do Teddy Bear Tech Support with.
Let's look at a setup involving a real live person in real time. Let's first look at the most minimal setup for that, where the human teddy bear is serving as a silent witness. Just like if you were talking to a stuffed animal teddy bear who can't understand what you're talking about anyway, you can talk about anything you might want to think out loud about with your human teddy bear. (Not just tech support issues!) It's fine if they can't follow what you're saying that closely. They can still hold the space for you in ways that are supportive. For example, we use TBTS in a "can't follow closely" way during my weekly meetings to work with a writing partner where we each are working on our own writing projects. My writing partner and I take breaks from writing every 20 minutes and take 3-minute turns serving as teddy bears for each other. We are often smack dab in the middle of something and just start talking as if the other person had a much better idea of what we were talking about than they do.
What changes now that someone else is paying attention? One big difference with having someone to talk to is that, to some extent, you're imagining what the other person is paying attention to, what are they expecting to hear you say, what parts are likely to stand out for them, etc. These things are factoring in to what you're saying to the teddy bear.
So, then, you might automatically start explaining things you don’t think you need to explain to yourself. You might end up listing off some key things or key points that can shed light on the situation. You might start to see things from a third party perspective. Such things can often lead to big shifts or profound insights.
You may have experienced this already in normal conversations. I have. Sometimes, but not necessarily, it's happened to be that the other person hadn't said very much in the conversation. Sometimes it's because they were trying to find something to say but couldn't come up with anything. When I've ended up with great insights and heartily thanked the person, "But, I didn't do anything!" has sometimes been the response.
But they are doing something for me. When “human teddy bears” serve as silent witnesses, they bring with them their facial expressions, the nodding of their heads, the puzzled looks they get on their faces, and the regard for me that they are holding me with. Just with things like that, the space is held differently for me. I hear myself differently. Someone is paying attention. As a result, some things can become immediately obvious. What I focus on changes. What to say or do next can become clear. The teddy bear's very presence changes things for me.
Note that it can be because the other person didn’t "do anything" beyond give me their presence and attention that something was facilitated for me. They held the space and gave me plenty of room to take things where I needed to go. I was able to benefit from the power of listening. I was "heard to speech" as Parker Palmer likes to describe it. Because they were there with me in the way that they were, it made possible my saying what I said, and it made possible all that came with getting to have said it.
What situations might you talk about?
Anything you might want to think out loud about (or out on paper about). (Not just tech support issues!) Maybe it’s a situation where it’s not immediately obvious where to start or how to get some traction. Maybe it’s something you’ve been working on, an email, a presentation, a piece of writing, etc., and it’d be helpful to get clearer on what the gist of it is. Maybe it’s something you want to get a piece of hammered out or untangled. Or maybe it’s something you want to reflect on.
For example, you might be working on an elevator pitch for being able to quickly tell someone about a project. You have already succinctly written out the "What?" and the "How?" for your project. Now, you're working on saying more about the "Why?" and seeing if you can get that in as close to the beginning of your elevator pitch as you can.
Or, you might be needing to initiate a difficult conversation with someone and be wanting to figure out what requests you might want to make of the person.
Or it could be something really quick and simple, like wanting to come up with a sentence or two to make a transition from one paragraph to the next in something you're writing.
Why minimal? Why have constraints?
One reason to constrain what teddy bears do to be minimal is because it can give the power of listening more of a chance to work its magic. One way to do this is to have it so your teddy bear only mirrors back to you parts of what you’ve said at times when the teddy bear thinks it’d be helpful, i.e., either repeats verbatim what you said or reflects back in the teddy bear’s own words what you’ve said.
Another way to make more room for the power of listening is a process called the Clearness Committee. It’s a process that involves multiple teddy bears supporting one focus person where the teddy bears can only respond to what the focus person is saying by asking questions.
The following excerpts from Parker Palmer’s description of the Clearness Committee give a sense for what this teddy bear setup is about:
- Many of us face a dilemma when trying to deal with a personal problem, question, or decision. On the one hand, we know that the issue is ours alone to resolve and that we have the inner resources to resolve it, but access to our own resources is often blocked by layers of inner "stuff"—confusion, habitual thinking, fear, despair. On the other hand, we know that friends might help us uncover our inner resources and find our way, but by exposing our problem to others, we run the risk of being invaded and overwhelmed by their assumptions, judgments, and advice—a common and alienating experience.
- Behind the Clearness Committee is a simple but crucial conviction: each of us has an inner teacher, a voice of truth, that offers the guidance and power we need to deal with our problems. But that inner voice is often garbled by various kinds of inward and outward interference. The function of the Clearness Committee is not to give advice or “fix” people from the outside in but rather to help people remove the interference so that they can discover their own wisdom from the inside out. Nothing is allowed except real questions, honest and open questions, questions that will help the focus person remove the blocks to his or her inner truth without becoming burdened by the personal agendas of committee members.
Here's a script for running a short version of a Clearness Committee that you take turns being talkers and teddy bears with: http://meaningfulaction.org/ScriptForHoldingTheSpaceSessions.pdf
Other reasons for constraining what teddy bears do to be minimal are:
- so we're less in performance mode
- so we're more in more freely talking just see how things unfold mode
- so we're in there's only one person's agenda at a time mode
- so there's less need to handle social dynamics
- so there's more hearing and being with
- so we can talk without needing the teddy bear to follow that closely with what we're saying, so we can even start in the middle of the story of whatever we're thinking about
- so we can connect more often in more different ways, because you can have teddy bears support you for short lengths of time with more different content
- so we can spend less time feeling isolated and more time feeling bolstered in our abilities to see how to realize possibilities
- so talkers and teddy bears can benefit from having structure, clear expectations, and predictability
- so we can connect with more different teddy bears, because you can plug anyone into the role of teddy bear
TBTS offers possibilities for exploring different structures of interacting for different situations. We can be briefly flipping into and out of teddy bear mode every now and then during the day with a teddy bear (can TBTS make it easy to have a socially acceptable way to have more frequent shorter interactions with someone so that you can have more connection with that person?), or every now and then in the middle of a conversation. Or, we can be talking more at length with teddy bears. We can have an ongoing teddy bear setup to help us with achieving a goal or establishing a habit. Or, we can have a teddy bear setup that is just for helping us make one decision. The possibilities and the benefits are many, and we'll see that the "teddy bears" are benefiting as well as the "talkers." The benefits include connecting more, connecting differently, holding more space with more room for the talker, and holding the space differently. It is about benefiting from having different windows into each other's worlds.
By being included in these "minimal" but significant ways in the talker's process, we are getting to take part in each other's journeys.
Ready to try it out?
One way to try it out is to go to the Opportunities Signup (bitly.com/oppsignup), where you can find people you can schedule times to do Teddy Bear Tech Support with.
Okay, so what are some things you could think through with someone? (Be it in real time, or in writing, or with a recording device.) The next four subsections provide some different ideas.
"Maybe I could ... "
Does prompting yourself with the words "Maybe I could ..." to start you talking help you think of something?
- For example, "Well, I have this summarizing sentence at the end of my email. Maybe I could write a different version of it that I could also put at the beginning of my email. Well, but ___________. Yeah, maybe I don't want to ___________. But, wait, if I leave out that part of the sentence and ___________. Then, maybe if I ___________. Yes, that'll do the trick. I think that's worth doing."
- Or, "I want to have a better way of handling my "out the door" items that I need to take with me when I'm leaving the house. Maybe I could always put my ___________. But, can I really get myself to do that? What if ___________? Maybe that would help. So, then, if I can count on that, then ___________. Which means I can ___________. So, if I move ___________. But, can I really get myself to do that??? What if ___________? ..."
- Brain dump or check-in for 5 - 10 minutes at the start of a work cycle. For example, this could be to start you back up after you've taken a break for lunch on Mondays.
- More frequent helpful meetings. Think of the meetings that you already have in your schedule. Could it be helpful to have more frequent meetings involving those people except that you'd have teddy bears that you met with instead of the actual people. Examples: advisors, mentors, colleagues, organizers.
Spur of the moment
- "Don't feel like it" support or "Instead of cleaning the toilet" support - When you want to get yourself to start working on something and don't feel like doing it, and especially if you're about to go clean the toilet because even that sounds like a more attractive job to do, reaching out to a teddy bear might be just the thing to try for getting yourself in gear.
- Learning by explaining and puzzling over out loud support - in the midst of reading or studying, grab a teddy bear and talk things over as if the teddy bear were a fellow learner or someone you could teach the material to.
How does the magic work?
Variation and selection
The magic of Teddy Bear Tech Support has many components to it. To read about one key component, click here to go to the Variation and selection wikipage.
Imagining/simulating what is going on for the teddy bear
What the talker is imagining is going on for the teddy bear can also be a big component of the magic. It's particularly interesting because what they are imagining need not be anything like what's actually going on for the teddy bear. Click here to go to the Imagining wikipage to read about this component.
Rubber ducking is a close cousin to Teddy Bear Tech Support where computer programmers debug their code by talking to rubber ducks. The spirit of both TBTS and rubber ducking is to facilitate your being better able to help yourself. One Rubber Ducking/TBTS technique that works well is to have an expert as your teddy bear and write to them in detail about what's going on. Here is an excerpt from a blog post about Stack Exchange, a network of Q&A communities for computer programmers. The excerpts attest to how many people have benefited from how Stack Exchange insists, and are kind of jerks about it, that people who post questions on Stack Exchange put effort in thinking through and writing up their questions with care. Often, it helps people to help them help themselves, and they often figure out the answer to their own problem. For example:
- I don't know how many times this has happened:
- I have a problem
- I decide to bring it to stack overflow
- I awkwardly write down my question
- I realize that the question doesn't make any sense
- I take 15 minutes to rethink how to ask my question
- I realize that I'm attacking the problem from a wrong direction entirely.
- I start from scratch and find my solution quickly.
- Does this happen to you? Sometimes asking the right question seems like half the problem.
- ...the critical part of rubber duck problem solving is to totally commit to asking a thorough, detailed question of this imaginary person or inanimate object.
Clearly, committing to asking a question with care can be very helpful. In general, totally committing to operating in other kinds of modes can also be key and can also be facilitated by TBTS/Rubber ducking.
Committing to proceeding as if there were less uncertainty to what I'm trying to do is one such mode. Committing to operating in this mode can be very hard for me to do when what's going on is all in my head. Talking to a teddy bear (even just a recording device teddy bear) can help me with committing. I can then stick to going down just one path with what I’m saying and continuing to build on it rather than saying, for example, “No, I don’t like that” and doing a lot of starting over. It’s just a whole different ballgame from me just trying to work on things where it’s just me thinking by myself. It’s like the difference between thinking about writing and actually writing. Sitting around thinking about writing (especially if you’re like me and want things to spring perfectly from your head) doesn’t get you to the same places (to say the least) as actually getting things out onto paper does. Sitting around thinking is precisely what happens for me when I try to talk out loud without a person or a recording device listening, I tend to trail off and shift back into just doing a lot of thinking without talking. What's key is to have it feel like someone or something is paying attention. Because of that, the space has been held for me to have a different process unfold.
How things get shifted for us
Because of mere presence of a teddy bear
Left to our own devices, we will tend to go down certain paths. The mere presence of a teddy bear can be all it takes for us to be finding ourselves going down different sets of paths. I might be able to stay more focused on what's important or what needs the most attention, or have better self talk, or think more big picture, etc.
I'll know that the teddy bear won't let me get away with bad self talk, and that'll prevent me from talking that way about myself.
The teddy bear's mere presence can serve as a touchstone to keep me operating in a particular mode.
Or, it could be that I know I won't always have a teddy bear with me, so wanting to take advantage of that can get me to prioritize.
Same page enough
The beauty of TBTS is that you only have to be on the same page enough with your teddy bear. If you don't have the time or desire to get someone fully up to speed with everything, you can still benefit from their support if the name of the game is to just be on the same page enough.
The teddy bear only has to get the gist of some aspect of what you're talking about to be able to come along for the ride with you. It could be just to see how frustrated you are with what's happening. There are different things like this that you can follow about what's going on with the talker as they go along that allow your presence to be felt by the talker, especially if later the talker stumbles on a solution to what's been frustrating to them and you can then knowledgeably join in the celebration.
Because all that's required is that you're both on the same page enough, this can help the talker get into freely improvising mode.
Exploring content and processes that you tend not to include others in
It might be easy for you to imagine including someone in your process for the following situations: getting help with wording something, asking someone which of two choices they like better, and getting feedback on something that's almost done and that you're almost ready to share with the world.
But, one thing that Teddy Bear Tech Support is about is including someone in your process for things you normally wouldn't include them in, and it's about how both the talker and the teddy bear can benefit from doing this more often.
Getting to connect with other people while working on what's typically done all by yourself, and having the support of others help you be more effective with doing this work.
As you read through the following excerpt, see how it also applies if you substitute "think out loud with someone" whenever you see the word "write."
- ...write before you're ready. Write what you know about the topic, write about how you plan to cover the topic, write about things you need to know - anything to get you going.
- Why does it save time to write before you're ready? Because you find out what you need to know. If you do lots of reading before you write, you end up reading lots of stuff that isn't relevant. If, instead, you write first, then you know what information you need for your argument, and you're much more efficient in finding it and reading it. Writing regularly ends up saving you time.
- And you'll be more creative. Boice in another experiment found that daily writers produced five times as many new ideas per week as academics who were not writing but who were instructed to note down new ideas when they thought of them.
- Experienced, highly productive writers don't wait to be inspired to write - instead, they write to be inspired.
For me, it's often about talking about things that I am far from having worked out and need to do some casting about for a while without worrying about being all that coherent. I often don't know what I think until I've heard what I've had to say. So, I like being able to say, "Hey, let's flip into 'Teddy Bear' mode" when these things arise. Teddy Bear mode needn't last more than a couple minutes. So, I put together this Teddy Bear Tech Support website to explain Teddy Bear mode, so that more people could at least benefit from these brief Teddy Bear interactions if not from the other kinds that I've described on this page.
Nowhere near shareable thoughts include:
- not sure what you might say
- quarter-baked ideas (even less baked than half-baked ideas)
Operating in different modes than usual
Getting something down vs thinking something up mode
With the following excerpt, notice how shifting to thinking out loud with someone can help you make the shift to "getting something down" mode. When I see something I'm writing appear on the piece of paper, I tend to evaluate it much more than if instead I'm hearing what I have to say. Spoken words are just there in that moment and then gone the next, whereas written words are lasting. Because they can be looked at more than once, I get more self-conscious about written words and hold them to higher standards. Also, I feel like people will expect me to go back and fix what I've written, but cut me much more slack with what I've said. So, for me, thinking out loud automatically shifts me into a lower expectations, let's just see what happens mode, similar to the getting something down mode in the following excerpt.
- One of the simplest and smartest things I ever learned about writing is the importance of a sense of direction. Writing is about getting something down, not thinking something up. Whenever I strive to ‘think something up,’ writing becomes something I must stretch to achieve. It becomes loftier than I am, perhaps even something so lofty, it is beyond my grasp. When I am trying to think something up, I am straining. When, on the other hand, I am focused about just getting something down, I have a sense of attention but not a sense of strain.
When you're the talker, I think the "minimal doing" requirement of TBTS can provide you with more freedom and ease and less strain, helping you discover new thoughts or new ways of saying things or new ways of putting them together as they come out of your mouth.
Common frustrations - having teddy bears operate differently than they're used to
Here's a sentiment that often rings true for me: I don't know what I think until I've heard what I've had to say. I get to find out what comes out of my mouth when I shift into think out loud mode. So, I benefit a lot from getting to talk through things with people. As I talk, if I've found that I've said something particularly helpful or insightful, it helps if I can immediately take the ball and run with it. But, I don't always get to. Often, I find myself feeling like I'm chasing the other person around. They've got their own ideas and their own agendas, and I'm trying to work within the rules of normal social dynamics to steer them back to a place that I want to explore.
What TBTS is not about: Having the teddy bear expound on "If I were the talker, here's how I would go about things.
It's not to have the teddy bear do our work for us or live our lives for us. In fact, when there's a tendency for these things, it's possible that setting up a clear teddy bear setup could allow us to interact with the teddy bear in a way that is more connecting (especially when we have teddy bears who often make lots of suggestions and who tend to have agendas for us).
The gift of getting to witness/accompany and experience the journey
Serving in the teddy bear role can provide us with the opportunity to hold the space for people in a way that develops our capacities to deeply listen. Here is a piece that speaks to that by David Castro on Learning to Listen. It is called Empathy in 8 Minutes, and it is about how he experienced doing an exercise where you listen quietly for 8 minutes as someone tells you his or her life story.
- When my partner started to tell his story, I wanted to ask a truckload of questions directing the conversation. I wanted to follow up on particular details, ask about things he hadn't mentioned, shortcut certain areas and learn more about others that interested me, like someone fast forwarding through a TV show.
- After about three minutes, however, something remarkable happened. That incessant voice in my head began to quiet, and for the first time I began to listen at a deeper level. I observed my partner’s body language, soaked in his selected words and stopped trying to control the conversation flow. In the remaining five minutes, I learned something profound about the person speaking. I began to see and understand him for the first time. I was actually listening to him instead of focusing on my bundle of projections about him.
TBTS makes it easier for the experience to be about only one person's agenda at a time. Notice how natural it is to have the both surprising and not so surprising number of agendas that David Castro had as a listener in the first 3 minutes of this exercise.
Teddy bears as well as talkers are likely to get a 3rd party perspective on issues in their own lives
Purposely talking to yourself by saying your name vs. saying "I" facilitates emotion regulation and self-control. So, if TBTS tends to naturally help you get into the mode of seeing yourself from a 3rd party perspective, or sets things up to get you to refer to yourself in the 3rd person, then you can benefit from the self-distancing that results. So, you're able to make more progress with what you're trying to think through.
The research of Ethan Kross, Ozlem Ayduk, and Jason Moser on 3rd party perspectives
The premise is that "third-person self-talk leads people to think about the self similar to how they think about others, which provides them with the psychological distance needed to facilitate self control." The results suggested that "third-person self-talk may constitute a relatively effortless form of self-control."
Making Meaning out of Negative Experiences by Self-Distancing by Kross and Ayduk 
- What might the implications of adopting a self-distanced versus a self-immersed perspective be for facilitating adaptive self-reflection? Drawing from prior research on self-control and psychological distance (Mischel, Shoda, & Rodriguez, 1989; Trope & Liberman, 2003), we reasoned that a self-immersed perspective would predispose people to focus narrowly on recounting the concrete details of their experience (i.e., what happened?; what did I feel?) rather than on taking the big picture into account in order to make meaning out of their experience (Kross, Ayduk, & Mischel, 2005). In contrast, we hypothesized that adopting a self-distanced perspective would allow people to focus on the broader context in order to reconstrue their experience in ways that would reduce distress. Thus, we predicted that self distancing would facilitate adaptive self-reflection whereas self-immersion would undermine it.
- As these examples illustrate, people who self-distance focus less on recounting their experiences and more on reconstruing them in ways that provide insight and closure.
Examples of kinds of Talkers and Teddy Bears
A kind of talker: Some people get so much out of doing their thinking by talking out loud with someone that the following sentiment rings true for them: "I don't know what I think until I've heard what I've had to say."
Take your teddy bear to work day
Talkers that want to engage more actively in learning that recruit teddy bears as a way to facilitate active learning
Teddy bear pals (like pen pals)
Harnessing the power of listening without needing people to be skilled at being good listeners
I have a friend who often mentions that they find me skilled at listening and that they would really appreciate being able to be a better listener themselves. I wonder if having experiences with being a silent witness teddy bear could help my friend become a better listener.
If the rule is simply that the teddy bear remain silent, that can make things much easier for people not only in the moment but likely in the future as well. This is a way the teddy bear can get to have experiences of what it's like to listen. Seeing how things unfold when all that has been offered is listening will provide experiences of what can be made possible by the power of listening. These experiences can yield a lasting impression that can help the teddy bear to develop a proclivity for making the choice to listen more in the future.
Many easy ways to recruit Teddy Bears
Teddy Bear mode needn't last more than a couple minutes. In general with TBTS, there are a lot of ways to have it so that you're not asking very much of the teddy bear, including it not needing to take up much time.
For me, I’ve had a teddy bear that I’ve sent emails to. What I asked of the teddy bear was to simply respond to the emails with “I read your email." Simply having someone I was sending emails to was a game changer for me.
Whatever the case may be, whether the situation is thinking through a minor or a major life decision, talking through where you’re stuck with something you’re trying to write, or wondering how you might be able to handle a delicate situation gracefully, there are many ways to harness the power of including someone else in your process. Here are some examples of support you could request from teddy bears:
- whatever is on my mind support
- as if talking to an expert support (can help you prepare to talk to an actual expert)
- taking regular pitstops along the way with you support (for someone working on a long-term project, like a term paper, a book, or a thesis)
- don't feel like it support (including before you're ready to start support)
- to get even more support that complements the support you get from a partner or an advisor/mentor
When to recruit a teddy bear
You might consider the following situations and triggers that alert you.
- becoming aware that you're procrastinating
- spending more than 5 minutes on one sentence (both if you're reading or writing)
Teddy Bear Tech Support from the Teddy Bear's perspective
Teddy Bears recruiting Talkers
I've talked about TBTS in terms of talkers recruiting teddy bears. But, teddy bears can also recruit talkers. For example, teddy bears that have retired from their careers can be of service to young talkers. One thing this could help with is with finding talkers that they can be normal mentors to or normal friends with.
Doing job shadowing is another reason teddy bears might have for recruiting talkers. If someone is wondering about what it would be like to be in a certain career field, sometimes they arrange to shadow/follow a person around on the job to experience what the job is like. One way to do job shadowing is to have times where you serve as a teddy bear for the person you are shadowing.
We can all use more meaningful action in our lives. TBTS gives teddy bears a way to have more meaningful action, and to connect with more people, and with more different people. Teddy bears get to develop listening skills by getting to witness the power of listening as they make choices (in the teddy bear setups that have choices to be made) about when to do things like mirror back what they've heard and when to offer questions, and as they learn to ask questions that are more of a listening nature.
Windows into Talkers' Worlds and into Teddy Bears' Own Worlds
Teddy Bears get to have windows into talkers' world and windows into their own worlds. They can get 3rd party perspectives on issues of their own when they are witnessing similar issues for others. They get to see people's insides and hear people's self talk.
For me, I've found it empowering to see how effective it is when we are better able to explore our own ideas for ourselves. I've found it reassuring to watch people say things to themselves that I would've wanted to say to them (if I weren't being a silent witness). It reminds me that what I want to do is hold the space with compassion and trust for the talker, knowing how empowering giving that kind of support can be for both me to witness and the talker to receive, and knowing that getting it is all too rare.