Open, honest questions

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A good description of an open, honest question is that the person asking the question could not possibly anticipate the answer to it. These questions are usually brief and have no preamble or explanation. Ask questions for the purpose of helping the focus person rather than for satisfying your own curiosity.

Examples

  • What did you mean when you said X?
  • What next steps might you take?
  • What would you say to someone in your shoes?
  • How would you summarize this?
  • Why's that?
  • What is an example of Y?
  • Could you say more about Z?
  • What could it look like if you were to turn it on its head?
  • If you were to generalize this, what might you say?
  • How would you explain it to someone who _________ ? (was in 5th grade, was likely to agree/disagree with you, was able to be super helpful, etc.)

Questions to avoid

Avoid questions that impose what you think on the speaker. This includes questions that include suggestions, advice, or analysis. We're asking you to avoid doing any evaluating, be it positive or negative, reassuring, diagnosing, judging, labeling, moralizing or providing any logical arguments. It can be surprisingly difficult to keep these out of your questions. A sure sign that a question was not honest and open is if the speaker answers it by saying "Yeah, but…"

Examples

  • You mentioned A, which made me think of B, and so I'd like to ask you about C.
  • Have you tried Y?
  • Why don't you Z?
  • Have you read such-and-such book?
  • Have you thought about talking to so-and-so about this?